'Tell me what happens the first time you see a woman naked.'
'The first time you see a woman naked will not be like you imagined. There will be no love, no trust, no intimacy. You won’t even be in the same room as her.
You won’t get to smile as she undresses you and you undress her. You won’t get to calm her nerves with nerves of your own. You won’t get to kiss her, feeling her lips and the edge of her tongue. You won’t get to brush your fingers over the lace of her bra or count her ribs or feel her heartbeat.
The first time you see a woman naked you will be sitting in front of a computer screen watching someone play at intimacy and perform at sex. She will contort her body to please everyone in the room but her. You will watch this woman who is not a woman, pixelated and filtered and customized. She will come ready-made, like an order at a restaurant. The man on the screen will be bigger than you, rougher than you. He will teach you how to talk to her. He will teach you where to put your hands and he will teach you what you’re supposed to like. He will teach you to take what is yours.
You must unlearn this. You must unlearn this twisted sense of love. You must unlearn the definition of pleasure and intimacy you are being taught. Kill this idea of love, this idea of entitlement, this way of scarring one another.’”
this scared me and made me cry and i am almost embarrassed to post this but quite honestly i would rather fight for this rather than anything else.
men and womens value, and the indescribable importance of intimacy
i trust in the rise of the sun
i’ve been up late with the night birds
begging the dawn not to come
oh how i don’t want to leave you
so much i can’t hardly bare
i have some things i must tend to
would you stay as you are lying there
kissing the rain off your shoulders
answering questions with stares
holding my chest like a wild horse
running my hands through your hair
the sun kicked the moon off the mountain
that is my queue to leave
long tears of women are silent
so they don’t wake those who sleep
i know that you don’t know how to say goodbye
keeps you on my mind
i try with all i can try to keep you off my mind
there’s nowhere to hide
there’s nowhere i can hide
i’m in love with your son
and there’s nothing nothing nothing nothing nothing to be done
what can i do
it’s an absolute truth
and it makes me want to run
makes me want to run
what have you done
what have you done
you don’t know what you’re doing little one
and i’ll die it’s been said of a kiss from god
what a way to go”